New day, New Year, New decade…

So it’s been who knows how long since the last time I posted. But it’s a new year and why not?

So last year – very near the end of it – I started talking to this guy. We met on a dating app, for people who are into certain things – BDSM – and he was one of the few people that contacted me on that app that actually treated me like a human being, so I actually wanted to talk to him.

From his profile picture, I wasn’t super attracted to him, but pictures can make people look different than they do in real life and honestly if someone has a personality that I’m attracted to, I don’t need them to be super duper physically attractive – from my perspective of what’s physically attractive.

Always… we had been chatting for a week or so, off the app – texting. He seemed nice, at first, but then things started to change. I couldn’t pin point the moment they did, but his attitude changed quite quickly. I tried to make it clear from the beginning where my lines were and he responded nicely enough, but then moments to hours later he would try and push them again and I don’t mean like gently nudging to see were my real limits are or something. I mean full on crossing over my lines, even after I’d stated that that wasn’t ok. To be honestly it wasn’t anything that would particular hurt me – since he whole thing was done over text. Along with this behaviour came other not so nice behaviour. He became quite passive aggressive and when I didn’t want to do something he wanted he would try and guilt trip me into doing things. This ended up with me just ignoring him for a while, because I didn’t want to be nasty to him, but I also didn’t want to have to deal with his guilt trips, especially not around Christmas! After then silences from me, he’d come back at me with apologies and the like, but they were still dripping with this ‘feel sorry for me vibe’ that started to really annoy me.

Anyways, so I keep giving me more chance to how me something about his personality that I could like, or like more of the guy I had chatted with to begin with. But he was gone.

In the end I got sick of it and just ghosted him.

I should say as well as my phone number he had my snap, so when I stopped replying via text, he moved onto sending me snaps. Which I also ignored, until he told me goodbye, then I looked at them, because why not? The same stuff was in them. After he had seen that I’d read the snaps he sent more – actually got quite weird – that culminated in him telling me he was going to block me and I thought ‘why the hell are you telling me this?’

I have not idea if he actually did block me, or if he was trying to get a rise out of me or something, but I jus removed him then and there, because I didn’t want to deal with his shit – it’s actually the sort of tactic that my ex used to use of me and it probably pissed me off more, because of that.

So I think I’m off dating again for a while, not that I was really looking in the first place, right now I’m trying to focus on myself and my future and just trying to sort my life out. So I don’t think I have the mental energy to deal with dating. I’m not cutting it out of my life, I’m just not going to be actively looking for someone. As weird as it feels, I don’t think I want someone as much as I have in the past. There’s that part of me, but the other things I my life are taking up all the space.

Everyone keeps asking me what I want to do with my life – career wise anyways – and I have no idea. I hate the job I’m working at now, mainly because my boss spends most of the time they see me, screaming at me and when I ask how to do things right, or just how to do them, they shout at me. It’s weird, like they won’t teach me how to do things, they just expect me to know, so that’s frustrating. Also maybe because I have next to know idea what’s going on half the time – maybe because my boss refused to tell me things and would go out of their way not to speak to me – but there is hardly any work to actually get done. I know some people would think sitting around an office doing nothing all day would be great, but it’s really not something that I find great. When I’m at work I want to work. Maybe that’s weird, but that’s how I feel.

I’m constantly trying to find work for myself, but most of the time me and the other office worker – three people have quit since I started, so there is now only the 2 of us – just keep all the work we can find till the end of the day or when the boss’s come in, so that we look busy.

I’m hoping that the new year will bring new job vacancies. Plus I’m one step closer to getting my driving license – which I should have gotten ages ago, but was stupid about it – by passing my theory test the other day. I think I was at a good standard to driving the last time I took lessons, but it has been a couple months, so I’m taking some more before going for my practical test. I was thinking about intensive courses, but I’m not sure how much time I need behind the wheel before I’m ready.

If I was only a little more… let’s product this summer…

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Because keeping one isn’t hard enough…

So yeah, if you have any tips for a student that is job hunting or a job that you think I could do or something ANYTHING! then feel free to let me know about it.

As the job search continues and it’s not like there isn’t jobs out there, there just isn’t any jobs that I can do, because everyone wants experience and how can I get experience if I can’t do the job to get the experience of doing it? Although there are a couple I’m looking at, but by the time I’ve paid for transport, I won’t be getting any money, because they pay minimum wage and the price of the bus ticket is exceedingly high in Hereford, at least the one from Madley to Hereford seems to be. I mean it’s about 3x the price of a one here in Bournemouth, so I thought I might be able to ask for transport money, but I think most places won’t be into doing that, but I’m going to try. There are a couple positions in care homes around the place, but once again travel. I now truly wish I had learnt to drive before this point and so transport might not have been as big an issue.

Although I’m not sure if the father has sold my brother’s old moped, so maybe I can commandeer that for a month or two. But I’m not sure about insurance and all that jazz, also I don’t think it’s very good, as in it used to break down every time it rained and the fuel is probably exceeding expensive as well – we’ll see when I get back home, if that works out, until then… more hunting.

Plus then there’s the full time jobs, which I can’t apply for because I’m looking for a part time job right now, although it’s nice to know that there are psychology related jobs around this area, as I might be returning after university and will most diffidently need a full time job then to pay the bills, because I don’t want to just go and live with the father and do nothing with my days. But that’s in the future, I need to find a part time job now and all this less than fruitful searching is making me frustrated, it seems that every time I find a job I can do and sounds good for me, it’s in another city and so I can’t do it and then the ones near by are all looking for people with experience, although there was one that was offering training on the job, but it didn’t state where it was, so I’m going to have to ring them up, completely dreading that, because I’m not so good over the phone, really. I’d much rather e-mail them about the job, but everywhere wants you to ring first and all that jazz.

.Quote/saying of the day: As a job seeker, remember this: You only lack experience if they want it done the same old way. ~Robert Brault